As November begins, I like to picture the idea of a family table. Many of us will be forced to attend biological family rituals involving a long table, sharing space and time with people that we have fraught, sometimes traumatic relationships with. But if you are someone in the queer or kink community, you may have already discovered the truth that living out, authentically means curating a chosen family who supports us in a non-judgmental way.
This month, I invite you to re-imagine your family table: let's cultivate profound gratitude for the relationships that are built not on blood, but on conscious effort, curiosity, and unconditional acceptance.
These non-traditional bonds—whether you call them chosen family, polycule, or fluid partnerships—are, in many ways, a more meaningful form of connection. They require consistent, courageous communication, clear negotiation, and genuine self-trust. We should be deeply thankful for the people who have willingly shown up and agreed to see us whole, validating the parts of our identity that the wider world often ignores or judges. The health of these dynamics is fully earned through a shared commitment to radical empathy and non-judgment.
This Thanksgiving, take a moment to pause and appreciate the people who have earned a seat at your family table. Be thankful for the brave, conscious work it takes to maintain that relationship. This family is a testament to the fact that genuine love, respect, and belonging are created through intention and mutual consent, offering a level of acceptance that obligation never could.
If you're struggling to articulate that gratitude, to communicate how much these unconventional connections mean to you, or if you are still working to define what "chosen family" looks like in your own life, let me help. Inquire now, for no-strings attached introductory session. We can start right away and help you get in touch with the authentic, wonderful, brave, curious, weird, authentic you..